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Where do the lonely go on Valentine's Day?

Where do the lonely go on Valentine’s Day?

This is my 3rd Valentine’s Day being single and as with most holidays there is a stigma that if you don’t have anyone to share that special day, then it just won’t be the same; but I beg to differ.  I can actually name several things that are much worse than being single on Valentine’s Day.  For example:

1.) Being showered with the same flowers, perfume, chocolates, and stuffed animals that the side mistress or mister received.
      2.) Being with someone who is only interested in what you can offer materialistically. 
      3.) Being with someone who abuses you verbally and/or physically.
      4.) Being with someone who doesn't take time to spend  with you leaving you to feel lonely while you're not alone. 
      5.) Being in a relationship with someone who causes you to put aside your dreams and goals or forces you to be someone other than yourself.
      6.) Being with someone that does not want to be with you but stays out of obligation or for the kids.
      7.) Being with someone who you simply don’t love or that don’t love you, but you both choose to stay for companionship or because you have invested too many years to walk away unmarried.

      You see there are so many people right now who feel stuck in a relationship, but will post pictures with their bae or boo in order to “fit-in” or create a false feeling of love and security for just one day, but live miserably for the other 364 days in the year. Why? Because society has told people that being single is the worst thing in the world. Truth be told, I’ve been married and I’ve been single and in my opinion the only thing better than being single on a holiday or any other day, is:

       1.) Being with someone who you can be your absolute unapologetic self.  You know, that person that you can be goofy around, who will see you at your worst and love you to your best.
       2.)  Being with that person who has your back and vice versa.
       3.) Being with someone who matches your grind and whose dreams intertwine with yours.
       4.) Being with someone who will look at you every single day and know that they are winning because you’re on their team.
       5.) Being with someone who will fight with you but turn around and fight for you and pray for you.
       6.) Being with someone who really means that they will be with you in sickness and health as long as you both shall live.
       7.) Being with someone who will love you flaws and all and will stay in the relationship despite opposition because they realize that no matter how many fights or disagreements you have, they’d rather fight with you than be with anyone else.


If I can’t have that, I’ll stay single.  So you ask, where do the lonely go on Valentine’s Day?  My answer is I don’t know because I am not lonely.  I am happy!  In fact, this Valentine’s Day, I will treat my happy self to whatever my heart desires.  I’ll shower my sweet daughter with a bouquet of flowers and candy because she is my gift from God… and I’ll wait patiently for the man that will love both of us and will make us feel that every day is Valentine’s Day! 

 My name is Tiffany LaMeia and I am dedicated to becoming a better me, encouraging you to be a better you, and helping you to understand that you are #ENOUGH!  -Have a Prosperous Day!

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