You've Changed!

Ever had someone tell you “you’ve changed,” as if it was an insult?  I have too; and my response was “of course I’ve changed.”  I mean what is the point of living if you’re not going to change?

Honestly, if we all take a look at our pictures from birth, adolescents, teen years, college years, and even last year, I can guarantee that something about us have changed.  As long as we live, we will change; but I have found that people are more accepting of organic change than they are of intentional change.

A few years ago I made a conscious decision to change.  This change was the equivalent of going into a dressing room and changing from sweats to a formal gown. It was drastic, and it was intentional.   I knew that I had been living a sub-par life.  I wasn’t utilizing my education and experiences to help others, and I had gotten in a place where I settled for mediocre.  I was tired of status quo and determined that there was more to life than I was experiencing.  So I began to seek God, study, and do some self-evaluations.  I was determined to change.

My mind began to transform and my views on life began to shift.  Many around me appreciated the change because it was inspiring to them and encouraged them to change too; and then there were those who were less accepting of it.  They were quick to say “you’ve changed,” as if it was a sin to do so. 

So exactly what changed?  I had a new appreciation for God and His love for me.  I began to love myself, flaws and all, and doing so positioned me to love others in a healthy way.  No longer did I have to rely on someone else to make me feel good about myself, I could encourage myself.

When you decide to change and better yourself, some people will support your change, but only temporarily.  The moment your change positions you to surpass them or challenge them, suddenly you become a threat.  It’s okay!  Everyone won’t appreciate your changes.  Change anyway.  There will be some who will value your change and support you sincerely.  Gravitate toward those individuals.

Listen! You don't owe anyone an explanation for growth.  We are all growing.  Some are growing bold while others are growing cold.  Nevertheless, we are all changing.  I encourage you to embrace life.  Be the best you possible.  Those who love you, will do so regardless. Those who despise you will do so regardless too.  You can't change people but you can change you.  Release the fear, spread your wings, and fly.  

My name is Tiffany LaMeia and I am dedicated to becoming a better me, encouraging you to be a better you, and helping you to understand that you are #ENOUGH!  -Have a Prosperous Day!