Tiffany LaMeia Speaks

Why Are You Single? All to often I have heard individuals ask a woman why she's single. Most times there is an implication or suggestion that if she is single then something must be wrong.  Perhaps she is single because something is right. I happen to know plenty of beautiful, educated, and emotionally available women who are not willing to settle for a piece of a man for the sake of saying she has one.   Maybe I am confused; but I am still trying to figure out what’s so bad about the single life.   It sure beats being with someone and still being lonely. Nevertheless, I will take a moment to help you understand why many women are single. The first year of my separation, I took time to heal.   I was in a broken place I wanted to make sure I cleansed myself of toxins and baggage.   I knew the man God had for me, in my future, deserved a woman who was whole and complete.   I took time and discovered me.   I reconnected with my inner-self...

What Kind of Friend Are You?  Ever heard a woman say that she doesn’t trust other women, or a man say he has more home girls than boys?   Honestly, I have uttered those words far too many times.   I grew up thinking females couldn’t be trusted, were all jealous, and were nothing but trouble.   I used to think that I naturally connected with males because I grew up with two brothers and no sisters, but I later learned I had adopted a mind frame that is often applauded in society.   I felt like having females in my life would produce nothing but drama. As I grew older, life happened to me and the little trust I did have for women began to diminish.  Before I knew it, I found myself alone in this big world.   Aside from the two solid friendships I had from childhood, I didn’t have anyone I really could consider a friend.   I felt like was me against the world. I didn’t have friends I could call to meet for dinner or go to the movie...

It’s Okay... if You're Not Okay! Ever gotten to the point where you were tired of pretending that the world you lived in was as good as people on the outside thought?  Ever had a moment where you literally had to smile to keep from crying? Have you ever felt as if the weight of the world was on your shoulders and if one more thing happened, you were going to lose your mind? Ever been at the point where you wanted to break but you couldn’t because so many people were relying on you to be their strength? If you haven’t, then just keep on living.  The grim reality is that while many deny or try to hide what they are going through, if you live any amount of time, you will experience pain and frustration, and you will cry.  I find it amazing that from birth, a primary sign that we are alive and that our organs, particularly our lungs, are properly functioning is an expression of crying initiated from pain. Yet in our adult phase, tears are often viewed as a s...

Can you cover me? In a world where relationship goals consist of having some one to "Netflix and Chill," I understand why men are confused about what women want and why women are afraid to tell a man what she wants. Men, your average woman of substance, seeking to be a wife, is not as concerned with how well you are in bed; she's focused on what's going on in your head.  While she might commit to sex in an effort to satisfy you, she really wants more.   She wants to know that you care and are concerned with the things that concern her.  She wants to know that in a world that is cold and cruel that you will be her safe place and her protector.   Many men have pursued me in vein thinking what I wanted was fame, finances, and fun times, when all I really need is to be covered! Yes!  That's it!  Can you cover me with your prayers and your support? Can you cover me with your heart and care for me as if I am the most valuable person in your w...