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Think Before You Sync!


Think Before You Sync!

Being on the dating scene in the 30s is totally different from being on the scene in your teens and early twenties. By now most people have come into their own, settled in their ways, established their beliefs, and have set the course for the remainder of their lives.

I must admit I have encountered so many different types of men. I've met professional, educated, and financially stable men, aspiring dreamers, and of course the late bloomer who still doesn't know what he wants to be when he grows up; and while most of their approaches were initially intriguing, I had to quickly realize that first impressions are not always what they seem.

While most relationships/friendships start off with the "oohs," "aghs," and lengthy late night conversations, it is easy to be overwhelmed and wrapped up in the excitement and possibility of a new relationship. I get it! The possibilities of something new and different is thrilling. I mean, who doesn't want LOVE?  For most women, love is the very essence of who she is, and the anticipation of having someone to give love to and receive love from can be blinding.  But the desire to rush into and become emotionally tied to someone, prematurely, can sometimes cause us to miss obvious cues and signs that indicate danger ahead; putting ourselves at risk for heartache, misery, and a possible stalker 👀. So today, I encourage you to "think before you sync!"

I always use a 3 month rule. It takes me less than three months of just casually speaking with a man to know that he is just not for me. Within that time frame, a person will not only tell you who they're "not," but they'll also show you who they "are!" And in the words of the late Dr. Maya Angelou "believe them the first time!"

As single men and women, especially 30 years and older, we don't have time to waste with the wrong person. Often times we feel that because a person is good to us that they're good for us. Truthfully, some people are sent into our lives for purposes other than relationships, and we mess up what could be a great business venture, friendship, etc., because we didn't think before we synced.

My life lesson is to embrace the wait. For me, this has meant walking away from not only "not so good men," but also letting "great men" go, that I knew would be good to me, so they could find the woman that would help them become greater. Has it been easy, no! But will it be worth it? Yes!

If I could give any advice, it would be to take your time, don't ignore the signs... after all the wining and dining, you don't want to end up whining and crying... take a moment, pause, and think before you sync. If it's real... If it's meant to be... It will!



My name is Tiffany LaMeia and I am dedicated to becoming a better me, encouraging you to be a better you, and helping you to understand that you are #ENOUGH!  -Have a Prosperous Day!

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