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Stop Stalking Me!


PJ Morton said it best: “I don’t want to go through your phone... Some things are better left unknown."

Take it from me, it’s not worth it.
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After spending a good portion of my life checking phone calls, direct messages, text messages, receipts, etc., it suddenly dawned on me that I was wasting my life trying to catch my significant other, cheating.  I mean… I wasted A LOT of hours and days consumed with the task of playing private detective all for naught.  I mean, If I found evidence, was I really going anywhere? Probably not!  Yet and still, I spent so much time stressing myself out over situations that were beyond my control. But now, I get it!

Listen, if a person is going to be disloyal and unfaithful, they will go to extremes to dispose of the evidence.  There is NOTHING you can do to safeguard your heart from another person’s unfaithfulness, but what you can do is choose to accept the fact that you are dealing with such an individual and take action yourself. 

If you are in a relationship with someone that you feel is unfaithful you have a few options:

    1.)    Ask them!  If they deny it, then you get to choose whether or not you believe them.  If you choose to take their word, then you have to do just that… take their word.   If they confirm, then you are now left to decide if you will stay.  If you choose to stay, then you must be willing to move past the infidelity and forgive that person without continuously reminding them of their transgressions.
    
    2.)    Leave them!  While this is the only way to ensure that the unfaithful individual will NEVER cheat on YOU again, it’s not always easy letting go.  Only you can decide if the time and effort invested in a relationship is worth walking away from.  While I feel everyone deserves second chances, you have to decide where you draw the line and if the offense is worth staying.  Be real with yourself. If you can’t forgive and let go, then maybe you should GO!
      
    3.)    Accept them! While it sounds crazy, some people are just unwilling to be faithful. They aren’t loyal to anyone, not even themselves; so they will continue to exhibit unfaithful behaviors in any relationship they have.  Change won’t come easy for this person.  IF they change, it will be because they chose to change, not because you helped them to change.  While I don’t recommend it, if you choose to stay with that person, that’s on you.  But understand; there is a high probability that this person will never be solely committed to you.

At the end of the day, you have been given one life.  Why spend it stalking and playing private detective? Enjoy life!  You deserve to be happy.  You deserve a relationship of security.  You deserve someone who will be faithful to you and respect you.   

I leave you with a quote from an unknown composer: “Cheating doesn’t come from a lack of love, it comes from a lack of respect. “

My name is Tiffany LaMeia and I am dedicated to becoming a better me, encouraging you to be a better you, and helping you to understand that you are #ENOUGH!  -Have a Prosperous Day!


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