Tiffany LaMeia Speaks

Whoever coined the phrase “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt,” must not have understood the power that words possess.   In fact, sometimes words hurt more than sticks and stones.   I think that some people underestimate the effects and the explosive impact that words can have. Rachel Wolchin advises to "Be mindful when it comes to your words. A string of some that don't mean much to you may stick with someone for a lifetime."     For those who don’t know me, I am a small built American woman of African descent.     At my current age of 35, I weigh around 120 pounds, which is the most I have ever weighed, aside from pregnancy; and while I am both medically healthy and fit, I couldn’t tell you the number of times I have heard insulting words regarding my size.  For example, I am often told: you’re too skinny, you need to gain some weight, or you look sick.   If I was paid every time someone made a nasty rema...

Think Before You Sync! Being on the dating scene in the 30s is totally different from being on the scene in your teens and early twenties. By now most people have come into their own, settled in their ways, established their beliefs, and have set the course for the remainder of their lives. I must admit I have encountered so many different types of men. I've met professional, educated, and financially stable men, aspiring dreamers, and of course the late bloomer who still doesn't know what he wants to be when he grows up; and while most of their approaches were initially intriguing, I had to quickly realize that first impressions are not always what they seem. While most relationships/friendships start off with the "oohs," "aghs," and lengthy late night conversations, it is easy to be overwhelmed and wrapped up in the excitement and possibility of a new relationship. I get it! The possibilities of something new and different is thrilling. I mean, ...

Where do the lonely go on Valentine’s Day? This is my 3 rd Valentine’s Day being single and as with most holidays there is a stigma that if you don’t have anyone to share that special day, then it just won’t be the same; but I beg to differ.  I can actually name several things that are much worse than being single on Valentine’s Day.  For example: 1.)  Being showered with the same flowers, perfume, chocolates, and stuffed animals that the side mistress or mister received.       2.) Being with someone who is only interested in what you can offer materialistically.        3.) Being with someone who abuses you verbally and/or physically.       4.)  Being with someone who doesn't take time to spend  with you leaving you to feel lonely while you're not alone.        5.) Being in a relationship with someone who causes you to put aside your dreams and goals or forces you to be som...

Y ou Really Are ENOUGH! In 2015, after experiencing a heart-breaking and life-changin g cycle of events, I found myself beaten, broken, and lost.  Then one morning, while getting ready for work, I heard God softly whisper in my ear these three words: “You Are Enough!”  At that time, I never imagined that my “I AM #ENOUGH” message once shared with my community and beyond, would spark so much buzz, interest, and self-empowerment. See for years, I lived in a box where I relied on external sources to validate and verify who I was.   I had completely relinquished my rights to be who God created me to be.  My happiness was centered on how other people treated me and my beauty was measured by the words that came from another man’s lips.  I became very hypocritical in my everyday living. I preached a message that I stopped believing, and I asked people to trust a God that I didn’t trust.  Why?  I equated GOD to man, and that was my very first mis...