Tiffany LaMeia Speaks

It’s been over 9 years since I had my last piece of chocolate, and I still dream of taking a bite.   Oh how its sweet aroma still captures my attention and peaks my senses whenever it’s close by! You see, I was addicted to chocolate.   Every Sunday I looked forward to picking up a hot chocolate brownie, extra fudge with a scoop of ice cream, and riding out with my sisters or bundling up with my bowl at my parents’ place as my family laughed and watched the kids play.   I enjoyed eating chocolate candy bars and slices of rich chocolate cake during the holidays.   I never drank alcohol, smoked, or been a party type; so if there was anything that could be considered my guilty pleasure, it was chocolate.   Chocolate was my friend; so I thought.   It wasn’t until I began to experience unexplained health problems that I learned that I could live without it.   Months after having my daughter, Destiny, my hair began to fall out, weight began to dro...

Life is an amazing teacher if we allow ourselves to  become students.   As I get older I understand the value of time and the significance in knowing just how to spend my time.    So often we tend to invest time in things and people who serve us little to know purpose, while neglecting the very ones that pour into and sacrifice for us. We spend time on jobs that will continue with our without our presence.  We invest in people's business who have no idea who we are.  We focus our energy in things that will never reap dividends to us, and then we become frustrated when we realize that we have wasted time on the wrong things. One of the greatest lessons I have learned is to know where to invest my time.  I will share with you 3 important areas of life to always invest time in. 1.) God- Allow God to be your foundation.  Often times we only rely on Him when we hit a brick wall or the storms of life began to brew.  Build a relati...

How many times do we find ourselves buried in responsibilities and overwhelmed with task that we are literally dreading?   OMG! I can remember the numerous days I consistently walked around with pressure on my forehead because I had taken on or been delegated to do things I just didn’t want to do.   When you are reliable and responsible, people tend to call on you; they know you are capable of delivering.   They see an opportunity to pass the baton to you, and your failure or unwillingness to say "no" puts you in a place where you are overwhelmed and often confused. Ever find yourself trying to manage your dreams and someone else’s too or thinking "I didn't sign up for that?" Now don’t get me wrong, I believe in serving and helping others visions come into fruition.   We definitely need each other, but we must be mindful not to assume so much responsibility that it interferes with our own peace of mind.   Set boundaries.   You must be okay with...

Life is Good! Yesterday, I had the opportunity to observe a beautiful little girl lying down on a tire swing as it was swaying back and forth in the breeze.  She had her hands stretched out and was chill and relaxed as she screamed these three words: "Life Is Good!" When we heard those words, my friend and I chuckled because we knew in her world, everything was just right! Despite all the political wars, cold-hearted people, and challenges in life, she, so grateful for the opportunity to enjoy the breeze while swinging, felt life was good! After seeing that little girl so free and fulfilled , I began to wonder how many of us can really say life is good and mean it.   I know I can! Are things perfect? No!  Are there things that could be better? Yes!  But at the end of the day we have been blessed with breath in our bodies and so many other things that some are not fortunate to have.  I've learned the importance of maintaining a positive att...

Ever had someone tell you “you’ve changed,” as if it was an insult?  I have too; and my response was “of course I’ve changed.”  I mean what is the point of living if you’re not going to change? Honestly, if we all take a look at our pictures from birth, adolescents, teen years, college years, and even last year, I can guarantee that something about us have changed.   As long as we live, we will change; but I have found that people are more accepting of organic change than they are of intentional change. A few years ago I made a conscious decision to change.   This change was the equivalent of going into a dressing room and changing from sweats to a formal gown. It was drastic, and it was intentional.    I knew that I had been living a sub-par life.   I wasn’t utilizing my education and experiences to help others, and I had gotten in a place where I settled for mediocre.   I was tired of status quo and determined that there was more to lif...

Woman to Woman! I spend a lot of time writing to encourage single women but seldom do I yield and take a moment to uplift the married woman who feels like giving up.   I realize that sometimes you just need someone to encourage you to hold and keep fighting. Sometimes you need someone to help show you how to fight.   Sometimes you just need some good advice.   I start by saying this, yes I am a woman who experienced divorce, but I am also a woman who believes strongly in marriage.   Truth is, had I not gone through what I went through, I wouldn’t be able to pour into others as I do.   If you are that woman who is fighting to hold on to your marriage, let me share with you a few things I wish I had known.   Much of this is found in my book “The Other Woman.”  These are lessons I have learned, A.D. (after divorce).        1.)     Wives, it is your responsibility to cover your husband in prayer. ...