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Woman to Woman!


Woman to Woman!

I spend a lot of time writing to encourage single women but seldom do I yield and take a moment to uplift the married woman who feels like giving up.  I realize that sometimes you just need someone to encourage you to hold and keep fighting. Sometimes you need someone to help show you how to fight.  Sometimes you just need some good advice. 

I start by saying this, yes I am a woman who experienced divorce, but I am also a woman who believes strongly in marriage.   Truth is, had I not gone through what I went through, I wouldn’t be able to pour into others as I do.  If you are that woman who is fighting to hold on to your marriage, let me share with you a few things I wish I had known.  Much of this is found in my book “The Other Woman.”  These are lessons I have learned, A.D. (after divorce).

       1.)    Wives, it is your responsibility to cover your husband in prayer.  As you go through marriage, disappointments will come from: words both spoken and unspoken, deeds done and undone, and actions taken and missed.   It is easy to base treatment of your husband upon how he treats you, but maturity teaches you that you must treat him kindly even if he doesn’t reciprocate.
       
       2.)    Cover your husband at all times, no exceptions. Your ability to pray for your husband through ups and downs positions your household to overcome adversity, when it knocks at your door.
       
       3.)    Choose your battles.  If you complain over a dish in the sink or the toilet seat up, then your major concerns will have less of an impact. Fight when it matters, but also be willing to secede. Don’t allow a minor problem to become a major problem because you wouldn’t let it go.  You have to decide if winning the argument is more important than winning the marriage.
      
       4.)    If you must fight, fight fair.  Don’t speak anything over your husband that you don’t want to see manifested.  Your words have power. It will take years of kind words to uproot the harsh ones, once spoken.
       
       5.)    Choose when you discuss important matters.  Women, we are emotional beings, and we naturally have mood swings which are usually a result of hormonal changes.  When he walks in the house, the last thing he wants to do is hear nagging.  Your home should be a safe haven for both of you; it’s your place of tranquility in a world of chaos.

At the end of the day, understand that you will both undergo changes.  Your bodies will change, your mindsets will change, and your personalities will change.  But rather 
than changing apart, change together.

Am I an expert?  No!  But I have invested a lot of time praying, studying, and analyzing my own past, so that I  have a beautiful marriage in the future, and also help others.  Why? Because I believe marriage can work if you work it. 



My name is Tiffany LaMeia and I am dedicated to becoming a better me, encouraging you to be a better you, and helping you to understand that you are #ENOUGH!  -Have a Prosperous Day!

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