Tiffany LaMeia Speaks

Did I Do That? One of my favorite TV shows growing up was “Family Matters.”   I used to greatly anticipate TGIF so that I could sit down and watch that particular sitcom.   While his voice was slightly annoying, I loved me some “Steve Urkel.”   He was the kid that had crazy book knowledge and very little common sense; to say he was clumsy would be an understatement.   He was known for breaking things and creating chaos of some sort; and whenever he’d do something that left everyone’s mouth open or upset, he’d say “Did I Do That?”   I get it!  He was a kid, and it takes time for kids to learn right from wrong.   It is the responsibility of us adults to teach our kids to be honest and own their mistakes; but I fear that this won’t happen if we, as adults, fail to take responsibility for our own actions.   Far too often I hear adults blaming one another, pointing the finger, or lying about things they’ve done. I believe if you are adult e...

Give Me a Break!    Last night, I struggled between writing and posting a blog or getting some much needed rest.   After a long day at work and trying to manage home, I was burnt-out.   I found myself sitting on the couch dozing off before 8:00pm.   Typically I am a deadline person, which means I sometimes push myself beyond my limits to meet deadlines.   If you have followed my blogs from the beginning, I have never missed posting on Wednesday.   I don’t care if it was 11:59p when I posted, the blog had to be published. But last night, “it was no big deal.”     What would it matter if the blog didn’t post on Wednesday?   Would there be any negative consequences?   No! …   No one would die.   I wouldn’t get fired. Nothing bad would happen, but I would receive my next inspiration to blog.   So here it is. At about 9:00pm, as my daughter kept waking me up, I realized, if I don’t take a moment and res...

My Sunshine Has Come! This morning I woke up feeling myself.   Yeah, darn right I was.   After a great conversation last night with a dear friend who was pushing me to succeed, I got up ready to take on the world.   So I picked out a cute leopard dress (with a red belt), a red blazer, red heels, and a pop of red lipstick; and I knew I had it going on.   My confidence was on ten and I felt great.   Despite knowing that it was going to rain, my clothes just might get wet, and my makeup might ruin, I got up and did the “thang.” As you would know, most of my drive to work consisted of heavily cloudy skies; still I was unbothered.     I drove down the interstate bumping my music with the windows down, enjoying the breeze of the morning as the wind pressed against my cheeks and blew the tresses of my hair.   I smiled at life.   I thanked God for this beautiful day and was determined that I would embrace the moment. Then something ha...

Don't Stop Believing! This week I choose to encourage you to keep believing.  Most, if not all of us have something we are believing or hoping for.   Rather it be a degree, career change, healing, peace, love, etc., you mustn't stop believing. The past couple of months I have questioned my ability to receive love. Today, a dear friend reminded me that greatness takes time.  Sometimes God doesn't answer like we want or when we want because He's preparing something that takes a little longer to process.  I've got it now! I know that if things don't happen as I thought, then perhaps God has something greater and better.  Imagine yourself praying for an apartment but being blessed with a house; or praying for a baby but finding out you're having twins. It's possible to pray for a job but be blessed with a business.  You see for a believer, such as myself, I know that God always surpasses our expectations.  His ways are far beyond the h...

There's a Champion in You! “Everyone has the fire, but the champions know when to ignite the spark." Amit Ray If you know me or have followed my blogs, I have shared surface details of some of the things I have experienced in life. While my story may be different from others, I have had my share of ups and downs.   I have had moments in my life where daybreak seemed so far away; but now, looking back, I realize that those things made me better. I had to understand that my struggles, battles, and trials were not sent to break me but to make me stronger. When I got to that point, I stopped looking at what I had gone through as a defect and start viewing them as a necessity.   You see each battle I faced prepared me for a greater victory.   God, through life, was teaching me lessons that would help me secure the win. I’m the type of woman who enjoys watching sports, especially basketball and football.   If you follow the NBA, you are aware of the secon...

Earlier this week, my daughter asked me if I would blog about her; and my reply was, of course! So today, I want to focus on her and the many “little people” who are impacted by divorce all across this world.   The process of divorce is painful.   When you have become accustomed to a life, be it good or bad, and change comes, friction accompanies it.     Divorce has the ability to transform one’s entire life, and it can be traumatizing not only for adults, but children too.   Over the years of working with the church and youth, I have seen the emotional damage that can be done to children when parents decide to go their separate ways.   Too often parents become so busy trying to divide and conquer, find their new place in the world, and/or deal with their own pain, they forget that their children are hurting as well. When I realized that divorce was inevitable for me and my child’s father, I consciously decided that she would know “we didn’t...

What’s Driving You? President Barack Obama said "it is only when you hitch your wagon to something bigger than yourself that you find your true potential." Months after I delivered my daughter, Destiny, I began to undergo a series of medical issues.   I experienced hair loss, extreme weight loss, nerve issues, panic attacks, muscle pain, and other health concerns that were challenging to diagnose.   I spent months going back and forth from one specialist to another with no end or diagnosis in sight.   My quality of life was not good and I found myself in a depression. There were times that I would’ve wanted to quit had there not been something greater driving me.   Every single morning, I looked into the eyes of my precious little girl and I found a reason to keep fighting.    She, without knowing it, became my driving factor here on earth.   She is the reason I work so hard. I don’t think it strange that while life was throwing curve b...